In a recent article we wondered if oral sex was just foreplay or if it was time to consider it something more.
Sexual tastes and customs are constantly evolving and change visibly from one decade to the next, especially in the last period, where we are witnessing the emergence of many new trends in the bedroom.
Outercourse is a term that can be used to encompass a wide variety of sexual behaviors. It is often used to describe frottage, tribadism, or other types of sexual body rubbing that do not involve penetration but still involve orgasm. It can also include kissing, mutual masturbation , talking about sexual fantasies, and similar activities.
Only one ban
How many of you consider sexual intercourse satisfactory only if it includes actual penetration?
Know that, as strange as it may seem to many, there are those who can do without penetration, focusing on all the delicious side dish. This, in essence, is the Outercourse concept that has more and more admirers.
If you think that this term is just another way, more innovative and ‘in’, to indicate the classic Petting you are very wrong, this is not a question of some pushed kiss and uncertain rubbing by two teenagers too shy to go further, Outercourse is definitely another sport, where the rule is only one: no penetration, but yes to everything else.
Obviously, as with everything related to sex, the nuances in the Outercourse are many, and there is no manual that establishes the boundaries: the most rigorous ones do not allow any type of penetration, oral sex and penetrative female masturbation included, while for the less intransigent, everything can be fine, except actual vaginal sex.
Because it is not to be discarded
There are endless reasons why you might opt for outercourse over penetrative intercourse, here are the first that come to mind:
- You love BDSM and as you know a lot of RPGs don’t actually involve penetration. For example: handcuffs, blindfolds, floggers and whips.
- For whatever reason you want to abstain from penetrative sex (perhaps during your period ,)
- Prevent pregnancy without the use of contraceptive methods.
- With a casual partner, to avoid getting or passing on STIs .
- You can prolong sex if your partner struggles to maintain an erection.
- If you suffer from pain during sex due to endometriosis, vaginismus, fibroids or scars (physical and mental) from sexual trauma.
- It can be a great way to build your couple bond (and add some hot new options to your sexual repertoire).
Don’t focus all your mental energies only on penetration, in fact, it will make you be more attentive to the needs of the other, as well as your own, making you discover your sexuality once more and decreasing the stress levels of all the participants.
More focused on what your body really wants, less stressed and certainly more fired up than ever, you can then decide whether or not to make the Outercourse the central focus of the evening or just an appetizer before the main course.
In short , can Outercourse be as satisfying as sex with penetration?
Is oral sex really just foreplay?
To speak of completeness, 69 (nice number, isn’t it?), is par excellence the position that makes it possible, at the same time, to satisfy both sexes through fellatio and cunnilingus . Even if, the alternation of the two practices is to be considered more satisfying since, in Sixty-Nine , the pleasure that each one feels can distract from carrying out the service to the other well, and considering that these are practices that require extreme passion, the The pleasure you’re feeling can distract you from properly focusing on your partner.
This certainly does not discuss the fact that, for the most part, it is the prelude to quite other sequences. However, it should be emphasized that the blow job is, almost in all cases, more pleasing to men ; conversely, the woman does not always like to receive a little lick down there and/or calmly does without it, sometimes also following a lack of conviction on the part of him who is unwilling to return “the favour”.
Both practices can, therefore, be considered complete , they do not require contraceptives and, at a young age, they are an essential part of petting , an American term which, originally, means to caress, just as one does with a pet, in fact, ‘ pet ‘.
When was the Blowjob born?
With fellatio which derives from fallere or ” to suck “, we all know that it means the more commonly known blow job. It was born in Greece (and where if not?), where it was considered by the male an act of submission. Therefore, the man appreciated having it done by both a woman and a man as long as he was of a lower social class and always to demonstrate his superiority.
The term ” irrumare “, that is to penetrate the mouth, dates back to the same period. The difference consists in the fact that, in a Fellatio the woman manages the act of sucking, instead, in irrumare the man, in practice, fucks her mouth by managing the movement of her head.
Later, in the Middle Ages, oral sex became taboo until it was only rehabilitated in the thirties, thanks also to porn cinema, erotic literature and the social and costume changes of the time.
So do we really want to keep calling oral sex just foreplay? The sentence is yours.