In a recent article we wondered if oral sex was just foreplay or if it was time to consider it something more.
Sexual tastes and customs are constantly evolving and change visibly from one decade to the next, especially in the last period, where we are witnessing the emergence of many new trends in the bedroom.
Outercourse is a term that can be used to encompass a wide variety of sexual behaviors. It is often used to describe frottage, tribadism, or other types of sexual body rubbing that do not involve penetration but still involve orgasm. It can also include kissing, mutual masturbation , talking about sexual fantasies, and similar activities.
Only one ban
How many of you consider sexual intercourse satisfactory only if it includes actual penetration?
Know that, as strange as it may seem to many, there are those who can do without penetration, focusing on all the delicious side dish. This, in essence, is the Outercourse concept that has more and more admirers.
If you think that this term is just another way, more innovative and ‘in’, to indicate the classic Petting you are very wrong, this is not a question of some pushed kiss and uncertain rubbing by two teenagers too shy to go further, Outercourse is definitely another sport, where the rule is only one: no penetration, but yes to everything else.
Obviously, as with everything related to sex, the nuances in the Outercourse are many, and there is no manual that establishes the boundaries: the most rigorous ones do not allow any type of penetration, oral sex and penetrative female masturbation included, while for the less intransigent, everything can be fine, except actual vaginal sex.
Because it is not to be discarded
There are endless reasons why you might opt for outercourse over penetrative intercourse, here are the first that come to mind:
- You love BDSM and as you know a lot of RPGs don’t actually involve penetration. For example: handcuffs, blindfolds, floggers and whips.
- For whatever reason you want to abstain from penetrative sex (perhaps during your period ,)
- Prevent pregnancy without the use of contraceptive methods.
- With a casual partner, to avoid getting or passing on STIs .
- You can prolong sex if your partner struggles to maintain an erection.
- If you suffer from pain during sex due to endometriosis, vaginismus, fibroids or scars (physical and mental) from sexual trauma.
- It can be a great way to build your couple bond (and add some hot new options to your sexual repertoire).
Don’t focus all your mental energies only on penetration, in fact, it will make you be more attentive to the needs of the other, as well as your own, making you discover your sexuality once more and decreasing the stress levels of all the participants.
More focused on what your body really wants, less stressed and certainly more fired up than ever, you can then decide whether or not to make the Outercourse the central focus of the evening or just an appetizer before the main course.… Read the rest